My ex-husband

[Glorify Him]

While things have been pretty good between my ex and I--he's gone off on a tear. Probably because he now understands that there's no way that I want to get back together--who needs that kind of abuse. He has the power to make my life miserable over financial things and has a mean and nasty streak. Also, the listing on my house is up and I have decided to go FSBO (I sold real estate for many years), drop the price again, and try to get it sold so I can move on with my life.

Please keep me in your prayers as I face this time of stress and testing. I need more of His grace and peace, His wisdom and guidance. Please pray that I won't return Joe's mean and unkindness with the same, but would be the woman Jesus wants me to be, to reflect His spirit. Wow! tall order but I know your prayers hit the throne room. Here I am again, asking for your prayers. Thanks.

[Guest]

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Praying right now!
I also pray you find a buyer for your house, and that the Lord will help you deal with your ex, no matter how he is to you.

[Guest]

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I'm praying for you Glorify Him...that your house will sell quickly and that you will be calm in the the storms surrounding you. Especially that storm named Joe.

[faith]

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Your post was worded so beautifully sis. Thanks for the update.

That's so neat that you sold real estate in the past. That would make FSBO much easier for you.

Praying that works and the right buyer comes along quickly. God has the people out there somewhere and they will come at the right timing. What a great relief it will be to get that house off your shoulders.

Praying...

[Glorify Him]

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Thanks for all the prayers faithful ones. I have been unsettled in my spirit the last few days. I decided today to sit down and write Joe a letter outlining why it makes good business sense for him to buy me out of the house. In it, I ask him to discuss this with his accountant. From a business point of view, it makes much more sense to hold onto a great house that is a great investment, that has no mortgage--and either lease it out and make $ on it, or let it sit and depreciate it off his taxes. In 18 months to 3 years this house will be back up above what we paid for it--I'm sure of that, unless, of course Jesus comes before then.

I haven't sent this letter but I am praying about it. I am also entitled to half of the boat we purchased, which is a substantial sum. I am thinking about telling him that I would forgo 50% of my share of the proceeds from the boat if he would buy me out of the house. This accomplishes two things: he gets to keep the boat (he loves toys), it puts more money in his pocket. From my perspective it gets me out from under all the stress, and I never have to have contact with him again.

Sorry for the length of this, but I wanted you to know better how to pray for me. I am going to have to go back to work at least part time after July--my business is doing well, but it can't sustain me right now. I knew it would take a couple of years. If I were settled into my own place in a different community, it would give me lots more options than living in limbo and being hesitant to begin any other kind of consulting business because I don't plan in staying in this county after the house sells. So, it is complex, but He is in control and can handle it all. If any of you have any thoughts on this, as the Spirit leads, I'd love for you to PM me.

Thank you, thank you, thank you.

[Guest]

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Glorify Him, praying that God will remove this stress from you and, that His Will be done to His Glory. May the Lord light your footpath and ordain your steps and keep you in His Peace. In Jesus Name I pray. Amen

In Christ Jesus,
Dove

[Guest]

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Continuing to pray GH.
I'm getting used to seeing Greta in that hat.
It's really cute.

[Guest]

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Here I am again, asking for your prayers.

GH, we wouldn't have it any other way! That's what we're here for...

It sounds to me like you've thought this through pretty thoroughly. Don't give away the farm, tho. Let him have the boat - IF he buys your 1/2 of the house - AT A SPECIFIED PRICE SET BY YOU. Not meaning to preach to the choir

Continuing to lift you up to God in Prayer.

PB

[Glorify Him]

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The letter went in the mail today. I've prayed and prayed and released it into the only Hands that I know are big enough to handle all the issues. Please keep praying! I'm also working on my attitude that as much as I want this house sold and for me and Greta to move on--I want His plan more. Wow. Hard to do.

[faith]

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Hope all goes well sis. Praying...

[Guest]

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Praying that the Lord will read the letter to him. (Does that make sense? Nothing creepy, but I'm praying that he hears the words with a gentle voice.)

Keep us updated...

In His care,
Tammy

[MattW]

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Praying that God would grant your ex some wisdom regarding this matter, that the decisions would work in your favor, and that the Lord would use your whole situation for His own glory!

[Guest]

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Praying!

[Glorify Him]

Re: My ex-husband

I received three nasty and angry e-mails from my ex this morning. After a good cry, I responded back to him in the way that I believe the Lord would have had me to do. I talked about forgiveness, and my having forgiven him and how forgiveness is for us, not the person who has wronged us. He has a heartfull of bitterness and resentment towards his parents, his former best friend, and now me.

Part of the letter said for me to make him an offer to see what it would take to get me out of his life--I think that he is thinking about keeping the house (as I suggested) and using it seasonally and then selling it down the road as the market recovers (as I suggested.) This is a good thing. He was really frosted about the boat. Please keep me in prayer as I prayerfully consider what would be fair to me to walk away from this house with and be able to start again. I pray for God's divine wisdom and leading in this.

Thanks.

[JudyAnn]

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((((((((((Hugs, GH)))))))))

Lifting you up in prayer and the whole situation.